Today I’m going to change the mood of this blog by talking about something big that’s happening in Chile.
Today we’re having demonstrations all through the country to denounce and raise awareness about Gender Violence, and also we’re taking to social media to talk about the issue with the hashtag #NiUnaMenos which roughly translates to “Not a single woman less”. Now, I say roughly because I don’t think there is an exact translation, but I add that is not a single woman less because I’ve seen people translating it to “No one less” which removes the gender problematic from the issue.
Anyone who has been keeping up with the news can tell that we’re getting killed, or hurt, or raped, or sold, or so many other horrifying shit and that we’re targets because we are women.
Thus, the matter is about gender.
Don’t get me wrong, I know that there are a million things wrong in the world. I know that people are getting killed, I know that black people in the US are not safe, that children are dying everywhere. I know about Flint.
And I understand that some people really care about those other things.
I just wish they’d care about that all the time and not only when it’s convinient for them to try to shut us up.
When people change #NiUnaMenos to #NiUnoMenos (uno in Spanish can be sort of gender inclusive Male+Female, but it is also a gendered word. The “o” at the end makes it a “male word”) or #NadieMenos (nadie meaning No One), they’re not saying that we care about All People (AllLivesMatter? Sound Familiar?) but that they want us to stop talking about gender violence.
When you tell me All Lives and No One Less, you’re not telling me you truly believe everyone is important, you’re just telling me that what I’m saying makes you uncomfortable. You want to draw attention away from what I’m saying.
But people claiming All Lives and NoOne can’t hide the truth.
In Argentina one woman is killed every 30 hours.
30 hours. Just think about that for a moment.
And if you took the time to look at the different shit that’s happened in the country in the last year, you’d be horrified.
Here in Chile a woman was brutally attacked outside her house by a guy (there are suspects but no veredict yet) who beat her up and plucked her eyes out of her skull.
A 9 year old girl was killed by her step father, burnt and buried in their house’s backyard.
That. Shit. Happened.
Girls everywhere go missing all the time.
When girls get raped you know what people ask?
What were they wearing? Why were they up so late? Why had they been drinking? Why were they alone?
You know what else people say: They were asking for it.
Think about that for a moment.
Who goes out at night “to have a good time” and thinks to themselves, “you know what? tonight I’m going to dress this way because I want to get raped. I want to get molested and/or attacked. I want my body to go missing and then found on a ditch somewhere.”
However I look, whatever I do, wherever, whenever I am, I am never seeking to be killed, to be harmed, to be robbed of something no one can give me back.
We are people. We exist.
We are not your sisters, mothers, daughters, aunts, or anyone related to you in any way. We are people.
My relation to you should have nothing to do with how you respect me.
And I cannot understand how people can’t see that.
#NiUnaMenos is about us.
#NiUnaMenos because when we get raped we get attacked by people telling us we’re lying or we deserved it.
#NiUnaMenos because chances are if I go out too late I’m going to get killed.
#NiUnaMenos because women are dying in clandestine clinics because people are too high up their horse to recognize that our body is none of their business and abortion should be legal.
#NiUnaMenos because everyday I’m taught ways not to get raped while men are told that “boys will be boys”.
#NiUnaMenos because my body has more laws and policies than this entire country.
#NiUnaMenos because my sexuality is punished whenever it is not for someone else’s consumption.
#NiUnaMenos because I deserve not to live in fear. Because I exist and being a woman is not a crime.
#NiUnaMenos because transgender violence is still an issue.
#NiUnaMenos because that’s what this fight is about.
I’m tired of being nice and saying, “yes, I see what you mean about others dying, so yes we can use #NadieMenos… maybe not today?”.
I am angry, because people tore and burnt every side of me that wasn’t.
You can say whatever you want about general violence but it’s a fact that gender violence is real and that some people don’t care about girls getting hurt.
Yes, people are dying but we’re getting slaughtered while some people just sit there and watch, while the ones that should protect us take the time to observe and ask “Why were you wearing that if you didn’t want to be molested? Why were you nice to him if you didn’t want to have sex with him?”.
We are getting killed because we’re too nice, or because we say no.
And people care more about a young man’s “bright future” than the fact that something vital was ripped from our hands. That man might have lost a bright future, but we have to re-learn how to breathe and function in a world where people are told that our bodies are for their amusement.
Tell me again who’s losing a future.